I so desperately want to hold on to any remnant of happiness and functionality this family has to offer that I have developed a somewhat romantic timeline in my head that begins in a fictional era dubbed “pre-abuse “
Author: Ann’s Peace
Emotional abuse is a hot topic nowadays, and apt to be inaccurately and over-used. But for the real victims of emotional abuse, this increase in societal awareness hasn’t come a moment too soon. Despite it’s prevalence in the media, however, it has been my experience that the majority of people (some victims included) don’t perceive hurtful behavior as abuse, and an even harder time understanding the devastating impact it has on the recipient. Depression, isolation, low self-esteem, CPTSD, chronic illness (from adrenal burnout) and learned helplessness are common
signs/symptoms of emotional abuse. If she seeks support and opens up about the abuse, she may be further traumatized by people or even communities that reject her claims and effectively side with her abuser, which is unbelievably painful and difficult to bounce back from. It has been for me. I would do anything to spare another person this sort of pain and subsequent hopelessness. You are not alone.
There’s No Such Thing as Monsters
I used to tell my kids that monsters weren't real. They would be afraid of the shadow in the closet, or the creaking tree outside the window, or the tap-tap sound coming from the bathroom. Monsters, they'd claim. But I was able to convince them otherwise - usually by simply exposing what was actually there. There's no such thing as monsters, I'd tell them, we are safe.
The Crossroads
This is the place I go to, over and over. The path behind me is overgrown and eroded; I know better than to take more than a couple steps in that direction. But the path splits where I stand, and I can't move forward without making a choice.